Step daughter's dentist is a Scientologist & mother wants us to switch. What would you do?

My bonus daughter is 16. My hubby has physical custody and he and his ex have joint legal custody. We just gave her an updated doctor list for both girls. She wrote my hubby a letter and in it expressed that she wants my bonus daughter to change dentists because the two dentists that own the practice are "hard-core Scientologists." Bonus daughter has hmo medicaid and it is the only dentist that we have found that accepts her insurance and was accepting new patients. We paid out of pocket for years until we found them. We have been very happy with this dentist. They are professional and convenient and the Scientology, although we don't really agree with their belief system, doesn't bother us. My suggestion to hubby is that we tell mom if she can find a dentist in the area that accepts daughter's insurance and has the same level of care as current dentist then we will take her there. Hubby doesn't want to switch.He says they're a good dentist and their religious beliefs don't matter.

Step daughter's dentist is a Scientologist %26amp; mother wants us to switch. What would you do?
I agree with you. The level of care is more important than a professional's religious beliefs. Also, you might ask her if she wants to pay cash for the new dentist, if you decide to change.
Reply:your sending her to the dentist for dental healthcare, not religious lessons. as long as they don't try to push their belief on you or your family you should be gold, and the ex should appreciate that as well.





doesn't hurt to be open minded btw
Reply:I'd tell her to take her happy *** to any dentist she wants but my kid is staying with the dentist that I pay for her to go to.
Reply:How about mom goes with daughter to every appt. and sits in room to ensure the dentist does not try to convert her into Scientology? Your Husband is right, religious beliefs should not matter in this area; however, he should also be mindful of "mom's" fears, which is why I think your suggestion is a excellent compromise.
Reply:I am a Scientologist.





I don't know your situation, other than from what you've stated.





Has whatever mom is worried about come up before, does she really not trust her daughters, her daughters father and your judgement?





your suggestions sounds fair enough as long as this doesn't cause a problem for your daughter, what does she think is fair?





Does the mom fly off the handle or is she rational and would staying cause more upset or problems than finding another dentist as good as you've found for your daughter?





I would say find a solution that creates the greatest amount of good for all involved.
Reply:... that's like wanting to switch because the dentist is black or muslim. It's extremely prejudiced and very juvenile.

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