My dentist asked me out. Now I feel uncomfortable.?

I went for a dentist appointment yesterday and I was sitting there with my mouth wide open while my dentist examined my teeth. He was talking to me the whole time and the most I could do is shake my head in acknowledgement. He mentioned that he thought I was good-looking and asked if I had a boyfriend. He went on to ask if I would consider dating a "white guy". I sort of shrugged my shoulders (I couldn't talk anyway). Then he said that he wanted to take me out for dinner. I immediately got nervous and I think he sensed it so he didn't mention it anymore during the visit.





Don't get me wrong, he is nice looking and young but I am not in a position to date right now. Also, I just don't think I could date my dentist.





When he finished, he was still very chipper and didn't seem to act differently. I have another appointment with him in March but I almost want to change dentists. I don't know why I feel like this. Did he do something wrong or am I just being silly?

My dentist asked me out. Now I feel uncomfortable.?
you have every right to feel that way. that can be very awkward, if you think he's a good dentist other than that situation, go see him one more time and see how he acts, if you are really nervous about going back, then maybe you should switch.
Reply:I'm not sure if the dental profession is any different that any other medical profession, but with doctors and Massage therapists, you're not allowed to date your patients. You'll loose you're license. This guy kinda sounds like a creep
Reply:I'd go out with him. He's a freaking doctor. Smart and plenty of money.





Course, I never was one to turn down dates.
Reply:He is unprofessional and unethical. He did something wrong. You are not silly.
Reply:Thats just a major compliment to you. You dont have to like him back. If he says anything again tell him you have a partner but thanks anyway. Be confidant you are hot. Enjoy the ego boost it gives you.
Reply:doctor/patient relationship is just asking for problrms
Reply:He just likes you and strait-up asked you out. Did he do it at the wrong time? Yes. Did he show much class? NO. But maybe he didn't think he would ever see u outside of the office and maybe its his only chance to talk to you.


As a medical student i've seen women i'd love to ask out but you really have to keep it professional. Don't overreact. He just likes you. If that really bothers you then switch dentists, or just tell him you aren't interested at this time, but you'll be back in six months. haha
Reply:Wow- That's a very uncomfortable situation.Is this a new dentist?Honestly if it creeped you out trust your gut instinct and find a new dentist,You can request a copy of your records and tell them you are relocating,but then again you do not owe any explanation.If you want to stay with this dentist he probably sensed your tension and most likely he will not bring up the subject again.Whenever I go to the dentist their assistant or hygienist is always present.I once worked in a dental office and cannot believe a doctor presented themselves like that to a patient. You are not being silly!On a lighter note you must have a beautiful set of teeth:)
Reply:One rule of conduct. "You have no right to judge."





Ok, back to the point. One other reason for your insecurity over this matter is due to the fact that this young dentist might have said a nice thing at the wrong time.





Obviously you did not expect that to happen yes? Let alone in a dental care center.





Secondly, why you would get nervous is perhaps 2 possibilities. You don't like white guys, u just don't know it.


Or this has never happened to you before. I don't know if a guy has ever asked you out, but if that never happened, it may be the one reason why you are so uncomfortable with it. Relationship is like any other activity. When you're new to something, we obviously feel difficulty in our feelings towards it. We can choose (but most cases, forced) to do it, fail, succeed and eventually get used to it. Or we can simply walk away and not do it. (This being in case where we are more in control.





Now, I'm not telling you to give this guy a chance, or not. No. To decide to date him or not is a choice you alone make. I have no say on what should be done. But I can share this insight





But to answer to your question directly, he did something wrong, and you are feeling silly. Both of you, actually are the clowns of the show, believe it or not.





Ok, a little sarcisim aside, it's like any other normal relationships. The only issue is that it happened in a unexpected place. You complimented him in your question, so now the question you should ask yourself is "Do you like him?"





If you don't, meet him in March, or better yet, call him, tell him that you thought about it, and you thought it was sweet of him, but you can't accept his offer.





If you like him, then don't let fear hold you back. Go for it. You never know if it will work out until you put yourself to the test.





Or if you aren't ready for a relationship, but like him, then let him know you're not interested but thank him for his interest in you. That you're not ready due to other commitments.





It can be anything. Just be sure, not to hurt his feelings unless truly required to wake his senses.





Relationships take five phases.





Attraction


Uncertainty


Exclusivity





3 which I highlight. He's asking you out on a casual date. No harm really. To go or not, I leave it to you. Do what you feel is right, speak and explain what is right for you and better for him if done so. He's attracted to you, but love is a different level and takes time to develop. He is in phase 1 of seeing you. Do you feel the same? If so, casual dating is the way to go, if no, then don't.
Reply:yeah u should change dentists that is not normal
Reply:That was very unprofessional of him for starters. If I was in your situation I would probably switch dentists as well. Or, you could give it one more try and if he does it again, then don't come back...